so she is showing signs of sickness.
i transplanted her to a 3gal fabric pot. these are square pots that fill up to almost 5gal and dont make a square at that point.
i believe i was overwatering her. As soon as i put her in a new pot with some nutes she started to grow the very next day. seems to be better. im lightening up on my waterings.
besides that everything is okay . for now.