Part 25 Sprayed again but the next morning they look fried and some look way worse than others.

Swap to BT-k and you don't have to worry about neem anymore. Safe, tasteless, useable through flower. (Bacillus thuringiensis - kurstaki) Are you using Tap Water from the hose? High PPM tap water can cause your leaves to dry out if your chlorine/chloramine content is up there (I deal with this in my area), you'll grey at the edges and fry. Some strains more than others, made worse if you have other issues like deficiencies etc. Fill a trash can and dechlorinate before watering! - if this issue is from your tap water or neem, problem solved :)

spray milk on them.

I rinse neem off after a half hour of application. Otherwise the leaves get dark green and it looks horrible. I just treat every 2 to 3 days the same way.

That happened to a friend of mine. Our conclusion for his was that even though the leaves didn't look wet when lights came on they must have been, and the neem oil fried them from the lights.