The idea is basically the Archimedean property, you can fill a bathtub with a spoon. In other words, inflows win when you let time extend to infinity. So, you modulate the tent conditions by controlling inflows/inputs.
This totally depends on your set up. What type of lights are you running, are they passive or active cooled, etc. Is your environment outside of tent sealed, how is ambient CO2 levels, RH, temp, etc.
My exhaust is usually on the lowest setting during veg unless I let them get really bushy or the weather outside is impacting the conditions indoors. For flower I'll crank it up. I don't like the noise pollution of exhaust fans, so I really only turn it to max if the girls are so big that keeping RH below 60 requires it.
The whole high CFM thing is likely unneeded unless you are pumping DLI out or have low CO2 in your home (unlikely unless a new build). A CO2 meter is pretty cheap and should give you confirmation one way or the other if you need to be turning over the air in your tent more quickly.