The sturdiness of the poles -- relative to size of tent of course... don't need 1" diameter poles for a 3x3.
Shoot for 50% weight capacity and you'll be fine even if it's not the thickest metal poles.
There are always going to be some pinhole leaks. AC infinity has sturdy poles, but stitching sure isn't up to the same standards.
If the frame easily holds the weight of your equipment used, and you don't constantly take it down / put it up, it should last a long time regardless of brand. Reduce wear-n-tear as best you can. Can always shore up an old tent with cardboard or duct tape, lol.
At this point i'd probably build my own frame (angled eluminum or metal tubes etc... tent pull replacement venders?) and wrap it in poly film (also called panda film). Use some adhesive velcro and a suitable overlap for complete blackout at seams or maybe some magnets etc. Probably save a lot of money on any of the larger tents. Can customize size and exactly where things will be hung etc...
I mostly dark-proof the room the tent is in, so it doesn't have to lift a heavy weight in that regard. ducting will still be a likely avenue for light pollution regardless of which you buy or make. either need a beefier duct fant to handle a light labyrinth or just make sure the room remains mostly dark.