Grab a jeweler's loupe and look at the trichomes. Do almost all of them have cloudy heads with a few amber heads here and there?
If the answer is yes, she's finished.
Now, why aren't the buds getting bigger? That's easy. Your pot is too small. That's the only problem I see from your pictures.
Are you worried about the buds lightening up in color? Because a lot of cultivars have nice, bright nugs.
I guess I don't understand the question, but hopefully this helps.
Happy harvesting!