It is looking like thrips , not spider mites , spider mites marks are round dots and not the rules of marks you have. Anyway neem oil is still working on thrips. My only advice would be to spray during 2 week at least to get rid of the bug/larva & eggs 😊 . Your plant is a female, you can see 4 pistils on the picture named " female ? " ✌️🏼